Ten Terrific Tea Party Ideas

Ten Terrific Tea Party Ideas
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Tea Party Ideas for Your Daughter’s Birthday

So! You’re considering a tea party theme for your daughter’s next birthday? You’ve come to the right place! Birthdays are a huge opportunity for making precious mother-daughter memories. Below, I will break down into 10 steps how to host her birthday party using these terrific tea party ideas!

Now, let’s dive into my Ten Terrific Tea Party Ideas that I used for my daughter’s Tenth Birthday!

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First: Plan a Mother Daughter Date

Don’t be overwhelmed with where to start. I gotchu! My eldest daughter and I just recently went to a local coffee shop to plan her upcoming 10th birthday party. Lemme tell you, it was so much fun!!

I brought my beloved iPad with. After we chatted over our tea and hot cider, we scoured Pinterest for birthday party inspiration! This is an annual tradition for me and my daughters to go on a date and talk through any ideas they have for the venue, guests, theme, etc. I love taking this time with them and getting them involved in the process. I attribute my party planning abilities to my mom, who also did this with me as a kid!

Obviously, all the adorable tea party ideas stood out for her. And now, here we are… her lovely designed mint & pink colored, “MINK” afternoon tea birthday party! It’s soooo cute!

I recommend your mother daughter planning date happen 1.5 – 2 months in advance. This way, her birthday is right around the corner. Yet you have plenty of time to enjoy the process, stress-free!

But seriously, schedule this date! You’ll thank me later!

Second: Follow My Birthday Party Planning Guide

I believe you will find this birthday party planning guide will help add that extra touch for making her party magical and fun. But most importantly, stress-free! This is a great resource, regardless of if she lands on a tea party theme or not. If she does opt for it, continue on to step 3 for more tea party ideas.

Third: Create an Afternoon Tea Birthday Party Invitation

There are many places to turn for birthday invitations. However, my go-to is to DIY using Canva.

If you’re not familiar, Canva is a free design application. It requires absolutely no design skills whatsoever. I use it non-stop both personally and professionally.

Anyway, I hear from friends a lot something like “this is so cute, I wish I had time to do that!”. So when I was about to use some of the tea party ideas I saw on Pinterest to make her invitation, I recorded it. Now, you’ll believe me that you can do it, too.

See for yourself how I created this afternoon tea party birthday invitation in less than 5 minutes!

Additionally, be sure to carefully choose the RSVP date. From my personal experience, this is the day before I want to have ordered all the supplies by. I’ve learned this the hard way. Having the RSVP date too late, created unnecessary anxiety of being in limbo. Also, it caused me to overspend on goodie bags, plates, etc. because I had to guess on the quantity. Find more tips like this in my birthday party planning guide!

Fourth: Collect All Things “MINK”

As I mentioned, the tea party ideas from this party all stick to the “mink” color scheme (mint + pink). My aim is always to repurpose things that I already have or borrow from family and friends. So, start there!

Especially for this party, I borrowed a few pink depression glass pieces from my mom’s collection = money saver! If you don’t have someone to borrow that from and are in love with the pink depression glass items pictured, I recommend you visit your local thrift shops. Alternatively, you could use some pink plastic plates, like these, below.

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Next, I was able to find these floral tea cup and saucers and white teapot on Amazon. They work perfectly and are great quality for the price. Now, I suggest you click and add them to your cart; even if you just shift them to “save for later”.

Ten Terrific Tea Party Ideas table with tea pot
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Also, I discovered my mint colored sugar and creamer set (pictured), and the strings of pearls at a local thrift shop. If you have the time to pop into a thrift shop with your daughter, definitely give it a shot. But in the interest of time, I’ve also included an option for a set below. These little tongs are perfect for serving the lumps of sugar! I had this glass tiered stand already, but there are plenty of cute options available such as this set.

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Tying Together Your “MINK” Tea Party Ideas

Next, tie the entire tablescape together with a tablecloth. I opted for a plastic mint colored one and topped it off with this beautiful lace table runner. But use what you have if you can!

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Lastly, I found this super easy balloon bunting hack on Pinterest for stringing balloons that I was dying to try. And it worked great! Quick and easy = my kinda style. Lastly, I’d be remiss to not give a shout out to one of my fav Etsy shops Smith Studios. They customize banners like this #doubledigits one for me on numerous occasions (see my Staycation! banner). They are so easy to work with and it’s fabulous quality.

#doubledigits birthday banner sign custom made by Etsy shop
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Custom #doubledigits Birthday Banner
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Assemble as much as you can in advance so you have plenty of time to tinker! Have fun with it! Next, lets move on to selecting your menu.

Fifth: Tea Party Ideas for the Menu

There are numerous different recipes for tea sandwiches on Pinterest but I didn’t think the little girls would really appreciate cucumber or chicken salad sandwiches. I ended up landing on these two kiddie classics:

  • Peanut butter & jelly tea sandwiches
  • Egg, ham and cheese tea sandwiches

And lemme tell ya… they scarfed these! Big hits.

Best tip: freeze the bread before cutting out the circles! I also didn’t realize that I could make these several days in advance if I wanted. Definitely the way to go!

I used the Pro Advice from 31 Daily’s Easy Make Ahead Tea Sandwiches.

The PB&J tea sandwiches were EZ-PZ. However, making the eggs and cutting them into circles was a pain in the a**. I thought I would put the circle cutter in the pan and pour in a tiny bit of scrambled eggs and it’d cook in the shape and size I needed. It most certainly did not work.

Then, I ended up making very slim omelet kinda things and cut those out with the cutter. They looked terrrrrrible but the good thing was it was hidden under the ham, cheese and bread! Can you tell? Even if they could tell, the 10 year old girls could give a rip. I love when there’s wiggle room for error! In hindsight, I’d buy those pre-cooked egg substitutes or try out a sheet pan scrambled eggs recipe like this. *Add your comments below and let me know how it goes for you!

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Of course it wouldn’t be a party without dessert! Next, lets talk sweets!

Sixth: Dessert Tea Party Ideas

All of this planning and making the tea sandwiches are plenty for me! So I took the easy road and bought mini-cinnamon rolls, mini-scones, mini-macaroons, and white chocolate covered pretzels (only because they were drizzled with “mink” chocolate, ha!).


I am NOT a baker by any stretch. My mom however has been making birthday cakes, cupcakes and other delicious forms of desserts for everyone in our family for 3 decades. She’s amazing! So, naturally, she came up with idea to make petit fours. Have at it Gramma! I’m sure a local bakery could help with that if baking isn’t your thing. Or skip it all together… a birthday candle can just as easily go right into that mini-cinnamon roll.

Thanks Gram!

But, she made the petit fours and they were a really big hit! So, I’ll share the Pinterest recipe she used and the exact stuff she used to make them, if this is your jam!

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Next, you can’t have a tea party without tea… or can you?

Seventh: Kid’s Tea Choices

My daughter has wanted to love tea, but usually ended up not liking it. I tried a few different types but her favorite was this apple cider tea by La Tea Dah. With a bunch of cream and 2 lumps of sugar of course!

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Make her a cup or two of these teas before the party. If she doesn’t like it, just use apple juice, regular warm apple cider, milk steamers, or hot chocolate!

Additionally, I used an old plastic pitcher to fill with water and lemon slices for the girls. Even though my daughter liked the apple cider tea, I wanted to have something handy for the other girls, too. Good news was, they all loved the apple cider tea, too!

Eighth: Tea Party Etiquette

My daughter happily accepted the challenge to scour YouTube for a tea party etiquette video. It was her idea to begin with and instead of adding another thing to my to-do list, it was a great way to get hre involved.

Ultimately, she landed on this one by Nicolas Fairford and it was quite perfect. I learned quite a bit, too! Do you know the difference between afternoon and high tea? Spoiler alert: pinkies up is frowned upon.

Once her guests arrived, she queued up the video on the TV screen and they watched while I warmed up the tea and snapped a few photos.

As Nicolas suggests, set the tone of the party and let your guests know what to expect. Next, lets review in step 9.

Ninth: Set the Tone

My daughter enjoyed giving her girlfriends little notes a few days before the party. It asked them to come wearing pretty dresses. It really got them in character!

And gosh she looked beautiful in this pink, lacey dress she found on Amazon. It’s an inexpensive option, especially for being a formal gown. I wouldn’t consider this excellent quality to wear standing up as a flower girl in a wedding, for example. But, for dressing up for a tea party, it was absolutely perfect. I can’t believe my little girl is DOUBLE DIGITS!

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Also, I’m not sure if your hip to this trend or not, but “aesthetic music” is all the rage. It’s similarly interchanged with “lo-fi” and “ASMR” which I’ve recently been schooled on. So, my daughter found an Amazon Music playlist to set the mood in the room and the girls were crazy excited.

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Last but not least, get into character and play along as the butler!

Tenth: Play Along

By now, the girls were in such adorable character, especially after that etiquette video so I too played the part of their lady butler. I’m sure the folks on the other side of the pond would find our shenanigans ridiculous but we had so much fun!

The birthday girl’s younger twin sisters (6 year olds) were very jealous they couldn’t come to the tea party with her girlfriends. Since I set it all up at home, in the girls playroom, I only did a little bit of clean up the day of the party. I left almost everything in place.

The next morning, I placed back out the leftover tea sandwiches and other treats. The littles did not like the tea, so I steamed and frothed milk in the tea pot instead, and added whipped cream to the creamer set. My little ladies LOVE milk steamers! (Check out how we make them, in my After School Surprise Galentine’s Mother Daughter Party post.)

However, this time, Daddy had to be the butler for the four of us ladies! I’m so glad I did this because we got two terrific tea parties for the work (and price) of one!

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Now, it’s time: you have everything you need to throw your daughter an absolutely terrific tea party that she and her friends will never forget… and neither will you!

Ten Terrific Tea Party Ideas for the Win!

In summary, the four ten-year-old’s honestly loved this tea party. I have no doubt if you followed these tea party ideas and my birthday party planning guide, it was a huge success. My hope this post served as your one stop shop for everything and saved you a ton of time!

Spread the wealth of your experiences, tips on both successes and failures with everyone and comment below! I’d love to hear about how your daughter’s afternoon tea birthday party went! If you snap any pictures, please tag me on Instagram or Facebook, @meminthemaking!

Without a doubt, save these Ten Terrific Tea Party Ideas to your Pinterest board for later!

…Or text a link to your partner in crime!

Additionally, what I haven’t yet mentioned is that my daughter also asked her 3 girlfriends to sleepover after the tea party. We’ve done the birthday slumber party before so with a little effort, part 2 of her birthday party extravaganza was precious! Stay tuned for that post coming soon by subscribing to the Memory in the Making blog.

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Find me on Pinterest @memoryinthemaking and be sure to check out my Fun Mother Daughter Dates and Kids Birthday Parties boards for more tips and inspiration.

Finally, other Memory in the Making Pinterest boards of mine you may be interested in are: How to Be a Fun Mom, Tips for Entertaining, Family Fun Day, Party Planning Apps, Halloween Party Themes, Christmas Traditions for Kids, Holiday Planning and Ultimate Staycation!

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